Pneumonia #3 is quickly turning into yet another miraculous recovery. Sigh.
Met with VA Home health yesterday, who were surprisingly helpful. More helpful than the other a-holes there.
Still waiting to hear back from Medicaid. Still crossing my fingers.
Have sold many, many purses. Like $3K worth. Have bought a couple of other lower prices replacements. It's kind of liberating. I was going to try to use the proceeds for another Chanel but I am thinking now I probably won't. Their latest price increase just turned me off.
Maybe I'll watch for a gently used one.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Friday, January 15, 2010
Dad.
He's really sick. Fever is bad, but he did take Tylenol this morning. Apparently he tried to talk to the caregiver, which is new.
He sleeps a lot. He coughs a lot. He is weak.
I am kind of disconnected from it.
I worry he will pass when I am in Lincoln City this weekend. But at the same time I could see him doing this on purpose. I should go see him before we leave town, but I don't want to. It's too hard. I like to think of him smiling, not lying in bed struggling for breath. I hope he's not trying to talk because he's afraid.
Still working on home health to come out. Should know later in the day.
He has been half approved for Medicaid as of Feb 1. The financials are all that's left, and that's what I am worrying about. I pray it works out.
Oh yeah, no restraining order (per the attorney) but still denying her visitation. Court looms.
He sleeps a lot. He coughs a lot. He is weak.
I am kind of disconnected from it.
I worry he will pass when I am in Lincoln City this weekend. But at the same time I could see him doing this on purpose. I should go see him before we leave town, but I don't want to. It's too hard. I like to think of him smiling, not lying in bed struggling for breath. I hope he's not trying to talk because he's afraid.
Still working on home health to come out. Should know later in the day.
He has been half approved for Medicaid as of Feb 1. The financials are all that's left, and that's what I am worrying about. I pray it works out.
Oh yeah, no restraining order (per the attorney) but still denying her visitation. Court looms.
Haiti.
My heart is really breaking for Haiti right now. I have to stop looking at the news feeds.
Donating helped me feel a bit better.
http://www.redcross.org/
Donating helped me feel a bit better.
http://www.redcross.org/
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Today is sucking. I have meetings basically all day (I'm in an one hour "lull").
Anyway, Dad's Care home called. Remember how he JUST got transferred out of hospice? He's got a nasty cough, as in probably pneumonia. AGAIN.
I would like to slap the hospice people, because now there is a bunch of stupid paperwork that needs to be done. Again. Idiots.
Which leads me to another conundrum. If he DOES have pneumonia, he would now qualify for VA Nursing home care.
I'm waiting still for the Medicaid paperwork.
Part of me hopes that dad is tired, and ready to go on to the great beyond. He's been sick for so long. This rollercoaster sucks.
Anyway, Dad's Care home called. Remember how he JUST got transferred out of hospice? He's got a nasty cough, as in probably pneumonia. AGAIN.
I would like to slap the hospice people, because now there is a bunch of stupid paperwork that needs to be done. Again. Idiots.
Which leads me to another conundrum. If he DOES have pneumonia, he would now qualify for VA Nursing home care.
I'm waiting still for the Medicaid paperwork.
Part of me hopes that dad is tired, and ready to go on to the great beyond. He's been sick for so long. This rollercoaster sucks.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Yahoooooo
We are going to get a KID FREE day/night this Saturday, thanks to Dave's mom. We are getting out of down lest Cow shows up anyway for her visitation after we get the restraining order, and Dave talked her into taking the kids for the night.
Beach time, here we come! It's been about 6 months... gah!
Beach time, here we come! It's been about 6 months... gah!
Monday, January 11, 2010
I knew it was too calm.
Received word today via the attorney that the kid's biomom has not been to her mental health provider since November. She has no-showed, changed her phone number, and dropped off of the face of the earth. She was discharged due to disappearance.
Our court order says "no mental health treatment, no visitation."
Time for another restraining order to stop visitation and to go to court.
Basically one of two things will happen: 1. She will have to start seeing her provider again and providing proof she's in treatment if she wants visitation, or 2. She stops seeing the kids.
If she argues she's "all better" then her pathetic $50 a month child support will have to be increased, if she's so well then she can work full time, can't she?
If she's well and asks for more time with the kids (i.e. overnights, which she hasn't had for over a year) then where will they sleep? She moved in her boyfriend and his three children. There's nowhere for the kids to sleep (she and the creepy boyfriend are sleeping in the living room as is), and I would imagine all it would take would be one overnight with 5 children in one little trailer for her to either crack up completely again (yay! LOL) or not want overnights anymore.
Either way, I believe she is going to be basically fucked in court.
Will be interesting to see if she pulls a "suicide attempt" when she's served this time. That's an old trick for sympathy. If that's the case it just makes our case that much more airtight.
Should be interesting.
I'm sick of spending all this $$ on attorneys though. We'll probably be paying until we are dead.
Our court order says "no mental health treatment, no visitation."
Time for another restraining order to stop visitation and to go to court.
Basically one of two things will happen: 1. She will have to start seeing her provider again and providing proof she's in treatment if she wants visitation, or 2. She stops seeing the kids.
If she argues she's "all better" then her pathetic $50 a month child support will have to be increased, if she's so well then she can work full time, can't she?
If she's well and asks for more time with the kids (i.e. overnights, which she hasn't had for over a year) then where will they sleep? She moved in her boyfriend and his three children. There's nowhere for the kids to sleep (she and the creepy boyfriend are sleeping in the living room as is), and I would imagine all it would take would be one overnight with 5 children in one little trailer for her to either crack up completely again (yay! LOL) or not want overnights anymore.
Either way, I believe she is going to be basically fucked in court.
Will be interesting to see if she pulls a "suicide attempt" when she's served this time. That's an old trick for sympathy. If that's the case it just makes our case that much more airtight.
Should be interesting.
I'm sick of spending all this $$ on attorneys though. We'll probably be paying until we are dead.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Looking forward.
So I finally have something to look forward to. Mark, Deanna, Dave and I are going up to the Casino in Rochester in Feb to see Charo. Yes, "Cuchi Cuchi" effing badass Charo. (Charo is Mark's version of my Tom Jones obsession). We are going to stay over night. I talked my mom into taking the kids overnight, so it will be the first night without the kids we have had since August last year.
EFF YES!!!
Having these kids constantly is exhausting. It sucks, because their non-custodial literally batshit crazy mom is too sick to take them overnight, but well enough to mess with their heads for 8 hours on the First and Third Saturdays of the month.
I wish she was well enough to actually take them for any length of time. As stands though, we worry sick about what is happening because several very bad and very disturbing things have happened when they have been in her care in the past, and their mom is secretive about when she's on/off her meds and doing particularly badly.
Or, if she was just not around anymore (like she blessedly used to be) then the kids are easier to parent because they aren't confused all the time. It's hard to answer "Why does my mom lie all the time?" and "Will I get sick inside like my mom too?" and similar questions. They are very confused, and while we never talk bad about her to them, we know she badmouths us to them (have been asked "Why does my mom hate you so bad?").
Anyway, I am SO EXCITED to be able to go away with my husband with no kids, even if it is for one measley night. It's enough for me to be seriously looking forward to something for a change.
EFF YES!!!
Having these kids constantly is exhausting. It sucks, because their non-custodial literally batshit crazy mom is too sick to take them overnight, but well enough to mess with their heads for 8 hours on the First and Third Saturdays of the month.
I wish she was well enough to actually take them for any length of time. As stands though, we worry sick about what is happening because several very bad and very disturbing things have happened when they have been in her care in the past, and their mom is secretive about when she's on/off her meds and doing particularly badly.
Or, if she was just not around anymore (like she blessedly used to be) then the kids are easier to parent because they aren't confused all the time. It's hard to answer "Why does my mom lie all the time?" and "Will I get sick inside like my mom too?" and similar questions. They are very confused, and while we never talk bad about her to them, we know she badmouths us to them (have been asked "Why does my mom hate you so bad?").
Anyway, I am SO EXCITED to be able to go away with my husband with no kids, even if it is for one measley night. It's enough for me to be seriously looking forward to something for a change.
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